DOCTRINE OR LOVE

It is only me or nowadays people are choosing their churches over what matters. Getting married now is more complex than before because most guys choose their churches over the LOVE of God. I have been unlucky to meet a couple of ladies who want to marry guys from their church. This usually involves both guys and ladies but the ladies do it the most. It brings to mind what Christianity is all about in this current generation. Why are Christians playing the church card, not the Christ card??

 

The church is good and I have no doubt it's better to marry from the church but is better enough? Aren’t we supposed to look for the best in this life?? Using principles can help but isn’t Love the most important thing for us as believers?? Didn't Christ choose love when he came to die for us?? The current situation in the church now is everyone is being urged to marry from their church to enhance the church’s growth but what’s important the church or the kingdom of God??

 

Principles make up the church on earth but that shouldn’t be the main thing when one is looking for someone to spend your life with. Abraham instructed his servant to go to his father’s house for a wife for his son Isaac. This instruction was not based on Abraham’s principles but was based on God’s Doctrine. God’s Doctrine in John 1:12 is that anyone who receives Christ and believes in Him is qualified to be a son of God. If God calls him or her a child, why should the church and its principles stop you from marrying him or her?? God has one thing which defines his children and should be the main thing on which everyone should base their search. Just because I wasn't born in your church and I do things differently shouldn't be a case for you to say no to me.

 

Love for God should be the main thing when choosing a partner because no one can love you when he or she doesn’t have the love of God in him or her. One pastor said if a guy cheats on God with tithes and other things, be assured that he will cheat on you. Love for God makes a man faithful to the core. One friend told me that his best relationship with a girl was when he was faithful to God because whatever he did had God in mind. God’s love is so wonderful that it can change a man’s mind to be with one woman. I am all for love over principles because principles don't change but love does. The principles in Paul's time (in the New Testament age) couldn’t change him, why should we be playing the principles card again??

 

Following the principles of your church can make you miss out on the person God has prepared. In heaven God doesn't see a church, he sees His body and everyone forms part of the body. The best one for you might not be in your church and you might or will miss him or her because you can't marry someone who isn't in your church. If he or she has accepted Christ as his or her Savior, he or she forms part of God’s Body.

 

Loving your church is good but the first and last time I checked churches don't change people but the love of God does. The principles of my church or your church can not and will not change anyone because it has no power in themselves. Even if the regulations are sound, they will still require the Love of God to live according to them.

 

Now love never fails. As for principles, new ones will surface to replace the old ones and they should pass away but the only thing which shall endure forever in life is love. As you choose the one you will spend the rest of your life with, remember that only the love of God and the love you have for one another matter.

 

I know this will sound strange to those who haven’t encountered such a thing before but it is real and it’s happening in the body of Christ. Let’s be guarded when looking for the one to spend the rest of our lives with. The church is important but the love of God is the most important foundation on which to build forever.

 

 

To you reading, I was single and had experienced this first hand. But now, I have moved on and I have God on my side to help me over that heartbreak.